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The First Assault on my Dignity
I’m starting to shed like a kitten. One short hair at a time. I’ve been waiting for this, hoping against hope that I’d be one of the lucky ones who didn’t lose their hair.
“You will lose your hair,” were the first words out of my oncologist’s mouth. Goodness, as though that were the most important thing to worry about! It’s been two and a half weeks since my first chemo session, and my second one is coming up this Tuesday. It doesn’t look promising.
My son and his family are meeting us in southern California for a visit to Disneyland over Thanksgiving weekend. I was so hoping to look pretty for them. And even though I know that beauty is only skin deep, it will still shock my grandkids to see their Bela bald. I haven’t washed my hair in ages, and it looks like dishwater, with no color left. I was going to see my hairdresser for a much-needed trim and maybe put a few of my zebra stripes back. But I may visit her anyway—to shave my head. Bless her heart, she said she’d shave it free of charge.
I think of Kate Middleton and that gorgeous mane of brown hair she had. I wondered out loud how she’d managed to keep it during all those months of chemotherapy. My hairdresser responded,
“They can do miracles with wigs these days. With her money and position, it would be easy to duplicate her hairstyle and no one would see the difference. But maybe her chemotherapy cocktail was less harsh and she has kept her own hair.”
The truth is, my hair is nothing to brag about. With each pregnancy, it continued to thin and is extremely short now anyway. Gone is the seventeen-year-old high school senior with long hair flowing down her back. So losing what’s left of my hair is no big loss. But another joke God has played on me is giving me the use of only one hand. I had found an array of colorful scarves to cover my head. But I can’t arrange any of them with only one hand. I have a few hats and they will be easier to slip on one-handed. So when and if the time comes, I’ll see what works best for me.
More changes. Slight nausea, for which I have pills. Less appetite, weight loss, but I’m enjoying a delicious food honeymoon! Preparing all the foods I always used to avoid because they put weight on my small frame: fried cheese sandwiches, spaghetti, “have a little ham with your mayonnaise,” and rich chocolate desserts. I can’t get too used to all this, though. It’s a temporary silver lining. But I’ll take it.
So, we’ll see how my next infusion goes next Tuesday. I’m hopeful it keeps working as well, and that the poison is killing all the t-cell bandits in my blood!
More hair loss? Meh…