Author: Marilea C. Rabasa

                                              Circling the Wagon

A message from my care team at Fred Hutch:

“Hi Marilea,

Dr Poh asked me to reach out to let you know that unfortunately, the trial she discussed with you during your visit was just paused for a safety evaluation.

The FDA is requiring that all patients 60 years or older who are currently enrolled in the trial finish 6 cycles to ensure its safety and tolerability. We anticipate that the trial will resume enrollment in about 6 weeks. At that time we can have you sign the consent and start our screening process. Dr. Poh reassured me that you are clinically stable and she advised waiting until then to participate in the trial.

I do apologize. I know you’ve been patiently waiting and we will get things moving as soon as possible. Please let us know how you would like to proceed.

Thanks so much,

Jess, RN”

“safety evaluation,”  “to ensure its safety and tolerability,” “all patients 60 years and older.” As I approach the starting point of this journey, the reality of what I’m facing is hitting me. Up until my diagnosis, everything seemed speculative. My attitude about getting cancer—and the possibility of living or dying from it—was largely intellectual. Now with the start of 18 weeks of pouring poison into my body looming in just a few weeks, it’s all becoming real. How do I feel? Not fearful but yes, somewhat apprehensive. As Jane Fonda said in an interview, “It’ll be an adventure!”

There are so many people in the world who have faced the same journey. I am not alone. Many men and women where I live have gone through traditional chemotherapy and clinical trials and they are all thriving. If I’m apprehensive about anything, it’s the everyday discomforts that I’m not used to. My excellent health prior to getting cancer spoiled me a great deal, and when I get so much as a head cold I tell my friends,

“I don’t do sick well.”

Well, Marilea, it’s time to put on your big girl pants. I want to get out in front of this as much as possible  Now at a new normal, I need to make adjustments.. I’ve ordered a special sleeping mattrass with sides to keep me on my back while I sleep. This is necessary to keep from irritating the soon-to-be implanted port in my shoulder. My friends have already started a bandana collection for me. I would love to keep my hair, but it’s not likely.

Friends. Family. My best friend from Virginia is planning a trip here in the spring. My daughter, Caroline, is coming for a visit in October. My son and his family are spending several weeks with us on the island this summer and we’re growing closer. All my friends have showed an abundance of caring with endless offers of meals and rides to Fred Hutch if Gene can’t take me on infusion days.

I am surrounded by love and good wishes.

What a blessing!

                                        My Doctor Levels With Me, and a Period of Reflection

July 8^th, I had my blood drawn at Fred Hutch and met with my care team shortly thereafter. This was the big moment I had been waiting for, the one where I found out staging and next steps. The one when I’m handed my prognosis. Scared? No. Delighted to be finding out where to go from here, my likelihood of full recovery or whether or not I need to budget my time.

July 9^th: I had my second carpal tunnel surgery today and will wait two or three weeks for it to heal. In the meantime, I can reflect on what my oncologist had to tell me.

I have Stage 3 follicular t-cell lymphoma. This is a subset of a subset of lymphomas. There are so many of them, and they are treatable—but not all of them are curable. Mine is a rare one and of the non-curable variety. But the research has found a few new protocols that can keep it in remission for a long time, sometimes several years.

My oncologist, Dr. Christina Poh, spelled out our first line of attack, a commonly used drug mixture known as CHOP. I will go down to Fred Hutch once a week every three weeks, six times. So…eighteen weeks of chemo. I’m a pretty tough old bird, and I’m confident that I’ll tolerate it. If Jane Fonda can, so can I! J Yup, she’s had it, and is confident to stay in a full remission.

My doctor wants me to participate in a clinical trial concurrently with the chemo. There is evidence that patients who add this extra drug to their CHOP protocol have a better chance of staying in remission. Once my hand surgery is healed, I’ll go back to the Hutch to sign these clinical trial forms and get scheduled for treatment. I’ll need to have a minor surgical procedure where they insert a port into my shoulder. It’s a permanent line into a major vein and will stay in place throughout my treatment. It’s convenient for infusions and blood draws because I won’t need to be injected every visit.

Dr, Poh looked right at me and said,

“You’ll either die from it or with it.”

In other words, the chemo either can’t be tolerated by me or it won’t put me into remission. In that scenario my life will slip away pretty quickly. But if I die with it, it will be subdued sufficiently to keep me functioning well and not bad enough to kill me. In my 80’s, I’ll die of something—maybe unrelated to cancer—and pass on from that.

But enough talk about death. I’ve been given a rare and wonderful opportunity to spend the rest of my life just as I want. My bucket list will be indulged, I will smell the roses with more appreciation than ever before. And just as I endeavor to live well through the gifts of my recovery, now I’ll have an opportunity to die well.

                                         Down to the Hutch Again

I have to say that Fred Hutchinson Cancer Center is like a luxury hotel. The whole 7^th floor is dedicated to just lymphoma patients. There seem to be quite a few of us spread across the globe, compared to other kinds of cancer. I have a lot of company.

Gene and I arrived at noon and the nurse got me settled in to the room I’d be waiting in. She injected the radioactive dye into a vein, and allowed me to take the two prescribed Ativan while I waited the necessary hour. The tranquilizer, remember, is to calm me down and/or sleep during the whole procedure. My claustrophobia is probably why I love open spaces so much and being outdoors. I very much appreciate how the medical community frequently panders to this need of many patients.

After the scan they sent us home to wait for the result. It would paint a clear picture of how much or little the cancer has spread. And then my care team would plan the next steps. Many of my friends and family have asked me, quite indignantly, why it took nearly ten months to diagnose my cancer—especially since I’ve had glaring symptoms since September of last year. The reason is that the lymphoma cells did not show up in any of my earlier tests—not in two bone marrow biopsies nor in my first lymph node biopsy. My last biopsy did reveal a “partial and evolving” occurrence of t-cell lymphoma. Those two words give me hope that they may have detected it at an early stage.. My doctor told me it was “non-aggressive and slow-moving.” Does that improve my prognosis?

Maybe, for now. There are other factors that give me hope. The “nearly perfect health” I’ve enjoyed most of my life might help me. And it might reduce the possibility of complications. A dear friend died of lymphoma last year, largely because his heart was compromised and he needed three stents implanted and several ablations in the midst of fighting cancer. I had an echocardiogram last winter and was told “You have the heart of a 30-year-old.” Well, that’s nice to hear, but my lungs are a mess with early-onset emphysema and several benign nodes taking up residence. In any case, not to state the obvious, the younger and healthier you are when cancer strikes, the better your odds of long-term survival.

My odds are not good: 4 in 10 patients will live to the five-year mark. I told my son that and he said,

“Mom, I want more than five years!”

But I’ll be 81 in five years. That’s a good, long life, I think, not to mention the fullness and richness of the life experiences I’ve been privileged to enjoy. If I’m given five more years, what an opportunity to grow in my spirituality and make the most of the time left to me! How many people get that chance?

Of course, I could get hit by a bus tomorrow…

It Never Rains; It Pours

This spring, while I was waiting for some definite news, my carpal tunnel syndrome came back. It had started in October of last year and it was awful, but brief. Searing, burning pain, numbness and worse, sleepless nights. I used to walk around the house like a phantom, watch a movie, anything to distract me. Day became night and night became day. I was exhausted, just running on fumes. Then it went away—like a bad dream.

But in April it came back with a vengeance. I ran back to my spine doctor and he sent me to his partner to do a nerve study. He concluded that, yes, I have bi-lateral carpal tunnel syndrome, probably acquired from the past decade of being chained to my computer. I could either have steroid shots right into the area (ouch!) every three months or I could have it permanently fixed with surgery. With cancer treatments looming, I didn’t want to have to deal with that too. So I had my right hand repaired a couple of weeks ago, and what a relief! Now just my left hand bothering me, but that surgery was scheduled for July 9^th and then peace!

But wait! That’s not all! I’ve been in the Urgent Care Center three times since April with mouth ulcers/viruses/infections. Oh, I’ve had canker sores many times in my life, usually caused by me when I bit down on my lip. But the worst of these hellish infections was like something I’ve never endured. Intense soreness, inflammation and ulcers filling the bottom half of my mouth. I couldn’t even talk normally. But the worst part was my inability to eat without terrible pain. I was so hungry and unable to pass anything across my palette without terrible pain.

But there’s a wonderful medicine called Magic Rinse, and it was just pure lidocaine I had to mix with two other liquids and swoosh around in my mouth. But I couldn’t swoosh, so I used an old makeup brush and painted it on directly. Ah, relief! My kids took us to the opera for the last performance of Barber of Seville, and I couldn’t say no, though I wanted to. I brought my “magic” with me and kept painting it on throughout the performance. Then we picked up the grandkids and went to a Thai restaurant for dinner. Oh, I love my kids to the moon, but that was not the best choice!

That’s enough whining from me. It’s been a nasty spring, health-wise. But I’m only human. It feels good to vent once in a while. Sort of like interior weeding. And then let it go and move on to more positive thoughts. I have a third PET scan scheduled for June 26^th. They will see if my “hot spots” have increased since my March scan. If they have, then we’ll probably get started on the chemo. If it looks the same, then there’s no hurry.

So we’ll see what the PET scan reveals…

                                      The Peace That Comes From Knowing

I removed the question mark in the title. It’s not an uncertainty any longer. And it’s not so bad. I’d rather know the name of my enemy so I have a chance to fight it.

For all of my life I’ve enjoyed nearly perfect health. Oh, an annual cold maybe and a couple of bouts of bronchitis. But this 76-year-old body has never known serious illness, and there are so many diseases out there. They make warriors out of the most ordinary human beings. Fred Hutch Cancer Center in Seattle, the place that finally isolated and found my cancer, is a mecca for these warriors. Now I will be joining them.

I am at a place in my life that seemed out of reach for me. I never dreamed that I would ever learn to be truly happy, growing, as happiness must, from the inside out. This is where I am now, having spent the past decade working on my demons—we all have them—and replacing them with good, orderly direction (GOD). I write a weekly blog about my spiritual recovery, and my cancer diary, though humorous at times, is heavily weighted to reflect that.

There are over sixty different kinds of lymphoma. The ones that are the most common often have the highest success rate because they have found more ways to treat them. Then there are the uncommon forms of lymphoma that they don’t know much about because they appear so infrequently. The fates have given me the latter variety, T-cell lymphoma, which is rare. There are a few protocols that they use to coax it into remission, but the cancer tends to recur and the long-term success rate is low. About 30% make it to five years. And then there are clinical trials…

This is a new challenge for me. Gene and I spent over twenty years crisscrossing the continental United States, hiking in most of the national parks. We weren’t mountain climbers, even when we were much younger, but we did scale what was left of Mount St. Helens in 2002. It was his second climb, but my first. And oh, what an achievement it was for me, scrambling over those boulders, sinking into fine volcanic ash to finally reach the top. I was so exhausted at the time that I announced,

“Never again! No more mountains to climb!”

Well, life has now presented me with another one. When I meet Saint Peter at the gate, whether it’s next year or ten years from now, I will have the satisfaction of knowing that I didn’t fritter away my life avoiding difficulties and the interior growth that comes from facing them. The truth is, of course, that I would be passing on this particular challenge if I could. I’m not a saint. But once again, I’ve been faced with a problem that I didn’t have a choice about. So my work now, Saint Peter, is to rise to the challenge. I’m not ready for you yet.