“The beginning of love is to let those we love be perfectly themselves, and not to twist them to fit our image. Otherwise we love only the reflection of ourselves we find in them.”
~Thomas Merton, No Man Is an Island
My sponsor often tells me that whatever I decide to do in my relationships with people, let it come—not out of anger or spite, jealousy or resentment—but out of love. And if I truly love someone, I need to just let them be.
This is VERY hard when a loved one is addicted.
But I don’t have the power to change other people or their choices.
When I make the effort to let go, things usually turn out better.