From Lemons to Lemonade
This is a recipe for lemonade. But first you’ll need a few lemons. You can’t make this delicious fruit drink without the sour bitterness from the lemon tree. How you get from one to the other is not so complicated. Not if you want to live well.
Gene and I took a camping trip to Orcas Island recently. Probably just to prove to ourselves that we could still do it. Over the past thirty years, we have camped in some of the most horrible conditions imaginable: from near hurricane-force winds in the middle of the night that blew our tent off over our heads; to swarming black flies that sucked the living daylights out of me. But we were much younger then…
The first lemon on this trip was that I absentmindedly booked the 5:55 am ferry out of Anacortes. I must have been asleep when I did that. Wild horses couldn’t have gotten us to a ferry at that hour. So we showed up at 12:35 when I thought we’d be leaving.
“Sorry, but can’t you see the 5:55 am time on this receipt? Go wait in the standby line.”
“Thanks, pal.”
Lemonade? We made it onto the ferry.
The next lemon on our Orcas trip was where we camped. Now, I knew better than to wait to the last minute to make a reservation. So in December of 2023 I secured a spot in Moran State Park on the island. The last one available! I felt so lucky. But I should have known better. Sometimes I think with cotton in my brain. Why was it the very last one available? Because no one else wanted it, dummy. I knew it wasn’t close to the water, yet I didn’t realize how far away it would be to schlep our canoe and kayak into the lake. But site #83 must have easily been the worst site in the whole park. Sandwiched in between many other sites and the restroom, there was naturally a steady stream of people and screaming babies on their way to the bathroom right through our site. So, no privacy. No view. No water.
Lemonade from this lemon? We didn’t have to walk far to pee; and there was trash and a water spout right next to us.
Speaking of our boats, of all the beautiful places in Washington State to camp, we chose this state park because of all the lakes. I had recently bought a kayak and wanted to try it out in calm waters. Well, life happens, doesn’t it? My bilateral carpal tunnel syndrome acted up so violently last May that I had to have both hands surgically repaired. One in June and the second one in July, a week before our trip. Needless to say, I had no working hands to paddle either Gene’s canoe or my kayak. Terrible timing.
Lemonade? If we had taken the boats, it would have been much more physical labor that we were definitely not up to right then. And I chose to let my hands heal over proving myself in my kayak. A healthy choice.
Back to the campsite. Our tent that Gene hastily stuffed into its sack had several broken poles, so we couldn’t put it together. The backup tent was another conundrum for us. But Gene jerry-rigged its raising with a couple of walking sticks. It’s the same tent we used in Yosemite in 2006. And small. We didn’t mind practically sleeping on top of one another back then. But we do now.
Lemonade? Gene gallantly offered,
“I think I’d rather sleep out in the open air anyway, under the stars. Haven’t done this since Ely in 1999.”
God Bless Him!
Honestly, how long has it been since we last car camped? Maybe six years? We were so out of practice that we forgot how to pack the food in the cooler. Safely. I dutifully made lots of sandwiches beforehand so we’d had plenty of ready food to eat. Wrapped each one in plastic to protect them. Oh no! At every gas station we went to, Gene got a bag of ice and all those ice cubes cascaded down into the bottom of the cooler where I had packed our sandwiches. A day into the trip I went to get some of those sandwiches for lunch. A wet and soggy mess. I ate my peanut butter one anyway because I hate to waste food. Or maybe to self-punish. But Gene couldn’t stomach ham and cheese on soaking wet bread.
Lemonade? I relearned how to pack an ice chest. And we had plenty of good backup food to eat. Plus, Eastsound was close with great restaurants. We ate well the whole time.
I frequently get night sweats with my cancer. Annoying in my bed at home, they were a real pain in my sleeping bag. I awoke in the night to a soaking bag up around my head and neck. But, as always, I went back to sleep. Then during the night it had dried out but left a hard, crusty film on the lining of my bag. I asked Gene about it, and he said,
“It’s probably dried sodium that left your body.”
Lemonade: so that’s why I have low sodium counts in my bloodwork even though I eat enough salt every day to fill a salt shaker! Mystery solved.
For comfort, we brought two camp chairs. Gene’s broke as soon as he sat in it. My fault for leaving it outside all winter. I threw it in the trash.
Lemonade? I sat in the remaining one. Gene sat in the car, happily dozing much of the time.
Lemon: I have a case of my second memoir, Stepping Stones, that I’ve run out of places to unload. Women’s prisons are next on my list. Lemonade: I brought a few to Darvill’s in Eastsound to donate. He accepted them and will consider stocking my title. Just pass ‘em around. There’s good spiritual healing to be found in the pages.
And so I come to the end of my recipe(s) for lemonade. And it’s fitting that I end on a spiritual note. Because to reach a happy conclusion when life throws lemons at us requires some semblance of positive rationale-building. For every one of those lemons I could have whined and thrown myself into fits of hand-wringing and anxiety. I’m quite capable of doing that. But to what end? An attitude and camping experience far more bitter than most lemons taste. So…my choice these days—Gene has always had an even temperament, except when he doesn’t—is to put a positive spin on whatever was happening. A worthy challenge.
Why? Because turning lemons into delicious, sweet lemonade beats walking around with my lips pursed from sucking on sour lemons. And we did prove to ourselves that we could still go camping, as ill and infirm as we are now. Gene is still nursing a broken foot. And I’m bone-tired from lymphoma. But we did it and survived, proud that we still could.
We only get one spin around the race track. Might as well try to make it a happy one. Beats bitchin’!