From Sharing Experience,
Strength and Hope, p. 329:
“Myself, I can change. Others I can only love.”
Once upon a time I thought, because I loved my daughter, it was my responsibility to change her for her own good. How could I not? Her choices were killing her. Then I learned that she had a brain disease and the cure was out of my reach.
Out of my reach.
So I learned to let go and detach, but always with love.
Serenity is the gift I give myself when I let go and let God.
“’You don’t get
to choose how you’re going to die. Or when. You can only decide how you’re
going to live. Now.’ ~Joan Baez
How thrilling to contemplate that we can choose every attitude we have and every action we take. We have been gifted with full responsibility for our development.”
Those of us who
come to these sites are united by the sad reality of addiction, either in
themselves or a loved one. Sometimes both. And I find myself coming back in
order to learn how to live with that reality.
But I long ago
stopped playing the blame game. What good does it do? Surrendering
responsibility for my fate to others? That attitude strips me of the power to
determine my own fate.
I would rather
retain that power, wherever it takes me. And claim responsibility for my