“Second Step Prayer:
Heavenly Father, I know in my heart that only you can restore me to sanity.
I humbly ask that you remove all twisted thoughts and
addictive behavior from me this day.
Heal my spirit and restore in me a clear mind.”
How often have we tried to play God, to control everything and everyone around us, especially if they’re on a self-destructive path? This, to be sure, is what provides us with a sound rationale for doing so.
“He’s killing himself! We have to do something; we have to stop (SAVE) him!”
I said those words, and played out that scenario, for a number of years. But it got me nowhere. My daughter has been in and out of recovery for seventeen years. And when she was in recovery, I was sure it was because of my efforts to save her from herself. Then, when she slipped out of recovery, I found a way to make myself responsible for that too.
I was so joined at the hip with Angie, enmeshed in her illness, that I wasn’t paying enough attention to mine. I found myself exhausted and broken from all my efforts to save her. So I cut the cord and recognized that the path she was on was hers alone. I needed to forge my own path, continuing on my recovery journey.
Nothing has ever been harder for me than this separation, watching her flounder in the grips of heroin addiction.
So I turn my pain over to God, and that gives me strength.