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It’s All A Matter Of Perspective

“Life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it…and so it is with you…we are in charge of our attitudes.” ~Charles Swindoll   I’m not a victim. I’m a traveler like everyone else here. Life is a mixture of joys and sorrows, good and bad. Watching my daughter Angie self-destruct has given me a laser-sharp focus on what’s important in life: all the relationships that are left to me, friends and family, co-workers, the mailman. I guard them and cherish them with a special intensity now, because I know how fragile they can be. I take nothing for granted anymore. All of us here are learning lessons about love and loss. Life, in all its ferocity, is a gift. I will celebrate mine every day. Blessings to you...

The Red Brick Road

From The National Institute on Drug Abuse:  “Does relapse to drug abuse mean treatment has failed?  No. The chronic nature of the disease means that relapsing to drug abuse is not only possible but also likely. Relapse rates are similar to those for other well-characterized chronic medical illnesses, such as diabetes, hypertension, and asthma, which also have psychological and behavioral components. Treatment of chronic diseases involves changing deeply imbedded behaviors. For the addicted patient, lapses back to drug abuse indicate that treatment needs to be reinstated or adjusted or that alternate treatment is needed.”   What “alternate treatment”? There are a number of options for addicts out there, and they include programs for folks who don’t believe in a “higher power.” I’m so glad that the recovery net is spreading wider and including other sources of strength and help for the addict. My daughter Angie could not believe in God or reach beyond herself for recovery, and many addicts feel the same way. But many of them recover.  Whatever works, I always say. Addicts suffer badly enough from this cruel brain disease without being told as well how to find relief from it. There are many paths to recovery and remember: Dorothy may have been on a yellow brick road, but there was also a red brick road right next to...

Spiritual Levitation

From Hope for Today, May 20: “The serenity I am offered in Al-Anon is not an escape from life. Rather it is the power to find peacefulness within life. Al-Anon does not promise me freedom from pain, sorrow, or difficult situations. It does, however, give me the opportunity to learn from others how to develop the necessary skills for maintaining peace of mind, even when life seems most unbearable… Serenity is not about the end of pain. It’s about my ability to flourish peacefully no matter what life brings my way.”   In the movie, “The Shack,” Mac has a dream and in it he meets God. Mac had recently lost his young daughter, and in his anger and bitterness he lashed out at God. Who else to blame? God (a woman in the movie) came right back at Mac with Her own defense: She didn’t orchestrate all the misery on earth: Aleppo, The Holocaust, children starving in Nigeria. “Don’t blame me for all that,” She said.” My purpose is to help you rise above it.” Al-Anon has the same purpose in my life. God doesn’t have the power to return my daughter Angie to me. But if I continue my daily practice of gratitude, accept what I don’t have the ability to change, and have faith that God’s plan is unfolding for a greater good than I may ever see, I can live peacefully and even joyfully, savoring all the goodness that is in my life. It’s my choice....